6 things you SHOULD NOT look for in a guy

Number #1 -

Macho Man //

A big ole ego. A guy who talks about himself constantly & seems to always turn the conversation around to where he's the focus is a big NO. There's a difference about a guy who is confident in who he is and a guy who is full of himself. Where God is, the ego cannot be - plain and simple. I mean I get it, you want your man to know that he is important. You don't want him to be pitiful & always depressed. But you also don't want a man who is alllll about him. "I'm the best there is". "I'm perfect". "I'm better than them". Those are some things nobody likes hearing.














Number #2 -

Always the "victim" //
Alright moving on to the second. We just covered the ego and how ya don't want a guy with a head bigger then his body (you get what I mean). BUT you also don't want someone who is always down in the dumps. I'm not saying don't date someone who has insecurities, because that's impossible. We ALL have insecurities and things we don't like about ourselves. There's always gonna be some of that in any relationship. Although hearing about how he "doesn't like his nose" or how he's not "muscular enough" 24/7 can be a real turn off. There's a fine line between complaining every once in a while and doing it all day errday.

Number #3 -

Secrets don't make friends... or relationships //
Does he keep things from you? If a guy is secretive and seems to be acting sketchy say bye bye. I guess this goes along with honesty. This doesn't mean you have to be clinging onto him like a monkey every second, wondering what he's doing. But if he starts to seem like he's keeping secrets, its a big red flag.

Number #4 -

 Never gives you a break //
What I mean by this is he is always finding ways to put you down. There's a thing called "teasing" and a thing called "being mean" & they are two completely different things. Teasing is a form of flirting, ya know the thing couples do that everybody seems to awwww over? yeah, that. Its cute. Playful. Loving. All the things you want in a relationship. Now lets move over to verbal abuse. Something hopefully everyone would say they DO NOT want in a relationship. Choosing someone who is spitting mean words toward you right & left is NOT someone you want to being spending your time on. You deserve way more.

Number #5-

His property? //
This one is a toughy. One, because jealousy is okay to some extent & two, because you shouldn't be focusing on anyone in the relationship but that person. Although when it gets out of hand, its not pretty. Jealousy in a way is something that shows a person you care about them but being "possessive" is saying they are your property. No one is your property, and you are no one else's property. So when the person your with "claims you" and acts as if you belong to them, that should be a good sign he is not the one.

Number #6 -

The hulk //

No one is perfect. Most people on this planet have a temper, and get upset. Even over little simple things that most likely have a easy fix. Taking out the frustration on you all the time? not okay. You should never be someone's punching bag. You should never LET yourself be someone's punching bag. You can do so much better than that. Walk away form the person who yells at you at the drop of a hat.

Like I said NOBODY is perfect. No one has a perfect relationship, but there are things to look out for & that's what I just shared with you lovely people :))

See ya later dudesss.

road tripin' to mississippi

I'm a city girl. I like big buildings and the hustle & bustle. I like taking cabs everywhere and feeling so small in a big place. But let me tell ya... Mississippi about topped that.

Last weekend one of my sweet best friends called me up and said "hey so this is a tad bit last minute but I'm heading to Mississippi tomorrow, wanna come?". Being the worry wart I am I was a lil bit nervous about the packing situation & if it would even be possible but at the same time excitement overwhelmed me, because I was going some place I had never been. As soon as my parents gave the official ok my brain was already filled with the possible adventures.

I saddled up (tried my best with the southern term right there, hehe) and was on my way with 3 amazing people to a adorable town filled with the kindest people - Port Gibson, Mississippi.

Port Gibson - a place where the sunsets glow brighter than your future, the skies are filled with the bluest blue possible & where the grass looks fake (bc ITS SO GREEN). Here's a sample:

btw these two gorgeous pics were taken by Grace ;))

To make this a more enjoyable read and so its not just me rambling about my love for this place I'll give ya a little taste of what I experienced -

• First off, the people. I was informed that here in MS people would stop their cars in the middle of the road just to talk & have a friendly chat. LIKE WHAT. I had never really heard of such a thing.. people taking time out of their day.. to ask a stranger... how their day was going? I think we need more of that everywhere please.
• Next thing worthy of sharing would have to be the scenery. I don't exaggerate when I say the sunsets were G O R G E O U S. Sadly I was having to much fun that the first few days I lost track of time & didn't quite get the chance to snap a picture of it, but if you ever get the chance go check out Grace's Instagram feed. It will blow your mind through your phone screen. Just imagine that in real life. I know... craziness. On top of that the grass looked like the candy grass off of willy wonka. Ya know the bright healthy grass that you seriously wish for a second you were a cow so you could enjoy it? (not gonna lie that's a little weird) well yeah, its real.
• Oh & I cant forget the part where it has countless places to explore. When I say explore, I don't mean going to new boutiques or finding cool coffee shops, which is still on my "love" list but what I mean is places where you sometimes have to work for the reward. For example we took a little trip to the place where a war went on. Ill admit I wasn't paying too much attention to the educational side because I was to distracted thinking of how pretty it was!! Grace's dad convinced us girls that we could climb this hill, and how getting a view point from where the soldiers stood would be such a cool picture (hahaha he understands us). So we started up a hill that soon became a pretty big mistake. 4 words - fire ants, thorns, & snakes :)) ( it was a memory though, and I wouldn't change how it happened for anything)

"Ruthie's face" ;)

we stopped at "the dock" and got some gooooooood food dude 

I tried my best to get a decent sunset picture but... ya know.

on the way home *tear* Ruthie & I found a MS wall worth pulling the car over and taking a picture in front of

So that gives you a little insight of what my spring break was like. I have an idea, comment where you guys went & what you liked most because I betcha there was something.

  See ya later dudesss.

things only your best friend knows about you

They know that you force them to like your Instagram pictures as soon as they're posted.

They know what you're thinking just by the look on your face.

That one person who you never got over.

Little things that throw you over the edge like the word "moist", loud chewers and... scratching.

They know the exact thing you will order at a restaurant.

They remember all the bad phases you went through and share them with the world; by clicking and uploading the ugly pictures.

They know who your crush is without you even telling them.

They know about that one person you cant stand.

They know how you look if you haven't showered in 3 days.

How bad you look when you ugly cry.

How much you embarrass yourself... because its usually with them.

They know the amount of time its going to take you to get ready, even when you say "20 minutes".

They know how much you love them, even if you don't tell them.

They know about how much snapchat black mail you have on them.

They realize that half their wardrobe is over at your house.

They know about your obsession over a certain celebrity (mainly Zac Efron).

& they know how much you binge watch your favorite show because they're right there watching it with you.

you know you're a volleyball player when -

1. You know 20 different handshakes.

2. You smile at the girl who is on the ground because you're the one that blocked her.

3. You hate playing gym volleyball cause nobody knows the rules.

4. You think getting hit in the face is funny.

5. You have the ugliest knees.

6. The ball being rolled on the court in the middle of a game is the most annoying thing.

7. A pancake is more than just something you eat.

8. Its digging & hitting. Not bumping & spiking.

9. You miraculously managed to save a ball with an unlikely body part.

10. You feel so satisfied when you and your team run a play smoothly.

11. You get mad when some one says volleyball doesn't require running.

12. You give the best high fives

13. There's a quiet high tension moment when someone is about to serve.

14. You have tried setting in to a basketball hoop.

15. You don't stop running until the ball hits the floor.

16. Getting a kill off a tip is the best feeling.

17. You have an ace cheer that takes the whole practice to learn.

18. You go to set but the ball slips through your hands and smacks you in the face.

19. You are a "queen of the court".

20. Your heart stops beating for a sec while watching the ball roll over the net onto the other side.

dear future husband

Well hi, so the man I could possibly marry one day may be reading this & that's scary, nerve racking and exciting all at once. I picture you with dark hair, gorgeous eyes & ya know maybe a love for chick fil a like me, but I could be way off. I have no idea who you are or when I'm going to meet you, or even if I already HAVE met you (which woah that's pretty cool man). All I know is God has you picked out for a reason & he knows what he's doing. Yes yes I know, I'm only 16 and I get excited when ever I talk about that kind of stuff but I know for certain a lot of other girls are the same way. Don't get me wrong, I'm enjoying late night sonic drives, jamming to music at 2am & laughing till my stomach hurts at last minute sleepovers, I wouldn't trade that for anything. I'm just a big ole dreamer and have a huge imagination at times.

We may have crossed paths before. Maybe in the halls of school or just out and about randomly. I haven't the slightest idea of when I will meet you officially or if we're already good friends. But listen up, if we're gonna be growing old together, getting grey hair and all, I need to tell you a few things about me. Actually a few things about US. So here it goes -

Dear future husband, please make me a priority and I'll make you one. I'm not asking for all the attention to be on me 24/7 all day everyday, but I want us to be a priority in your eyes. I don't expect flowers, chocolate and hand written letters all the time. Heck who has that kind of time ? I just don't want something that shouldn't, come before us & our marriage (ohmygosh that sounds weird to say).

Dear future husband, on top of that make God a priority. Although making me a priority is great, don't leave the guy who made ya out in the cold. I mean c'mon he gave you me ;) (TOTALLY JOKING I'm not actually a brat) Give time to God & I promise I will do the same. We can do it together dude... oh & yes, even when we're married I will most likely call you dude.

Dear future husband, always stay true and be honest. Everything I have been telling you so far I will be doing as well, including this one. This one is one of the most important things that comes along with any relationship in my eyes. Not being honest with one another will put elephants in the room and make for a rough life together. Now I understand.. I don't wanna know about how many times you went to the bathroom that day, I'm not looking for that kind of honesty hahah ha haaa. I'm looking for a person who doesn't keep things from me that should be shared. Stuff that if you were to tell me, we could work through it together.

Dear future husband, lastly lets keep each other accountable. In everything we do lets be eachother's teammates. Going to the gym? lets keep eachother accountable. Starting a new job? Lets keep eachother accountable. I'm not kidding, in every aspect we should be there for eachother, pushing to do our best.

Ok after all that I may have scared you, but pls don't be frightened. I'm excited about meeting you & learning about your goofiness & quirks. I'm thankful for you already although I don't even know if we've crossed paths. So here's to us and hopefully getting this show on the road in like... 10 years? I'm still in high school soooo it'll be no time soon.

Love, Jordan (aka your future wife)

p.s. if we're gonna be married we're getting a pet pig. No arguing.

4 reasons why adventure buddies are important

Having friends who you're able to explore & live out life with is the bomb.com. I highly recommend you find yourself some ;)

1. You share uncontrollable laughs with them.

A week ago a couple "adventure buddies" & I went to the lake. BECAUSE IT WAS 70 DEGREES IN FEBUARY THANK YOU JESUS. We set up hammocks (after a few hilarious bumps in the road of course) and hung out, talked about life & took cute lil polaroid's. It was pretty sweet man. 

When I say we shared countless laughs I mean we laughed SO MUCH. Friends who keep you laughing are the kind of people you want around (especially if they share their food with you then you know for sure you have a stellar adventure buddy). 

2. They are up for trying new things.

I know that your bed is super cozy and your brain is telling you to stay in bed all day but having those people in your life to push you to try new things is a big plus.

Go find cool hipster shops downtown or scuba dive. Go live in a tree for a week, ANYTHING. Go do something you've never done, like hey, for me it was hammocking (I know I know I'm the crazy girl whos never been hammocking) it was a blast and I enjoyed every second of it!!

3. They experience life with you.

Life is special & the people you experience it with are even more so. Live life fully while you're here. Experience everything. Even the little things like reading new books, trying a new food, or starting a new hobby.

Life is a journey full of problems to solve - lessons to learn - but most of all experiences to enjoy. GO OUT & DO STUFF DUDE.

4. They push you out of your comfort zone.

I know I talk about this quite a lot and you probably have gotten my point by now but you need people around you that push you out of your comfort zone. Always remember that "great things never come from comfort zones". You are only confined by the walls you build yourself, so find yourself some radical people to help ya break them down.

thx for taking the time to read this, you awesome adventurous people.

See ya later dudesss.

why michigan lovers are smitten with the mitten

Your first thought of Michigan is probably "BBRRR". Well its not all big fluffy jackets & ice cycles. There is so much hidden beauty that lies in the state of Michigan that you have yet to come across -

First of all THE LAKE -

The lake is basically my families 2nd home & to most Michigan lovers, it is too. Its like the sea but better. No sharks dude !!! On chilly days you bring quilts to snuggle up in & books to read in the sand. & don't forget about the gorgeous pier. Its pretty neat during the summer but during the winter, oh man is it GR8. (google pictures and you'll know what I'm talking about:)

Second of all the cute lil hidden treasures -
From spontaneous walls with eggplant, tomatoes & blueberries to random painted bath tubs on the side walk. There's so many nooks and crannies that have yet to be discovered.

also how adorable is my nana !!!

Third, how "homey" it feels -
I don't know what it is about Michigan but if a state was able to give ya a big bear hug, it'd be this one. The people are friendly & welcoming, although the seagulls... you wanna keep your distance from them.

casually screaming cuz I'm being attacked by seagulls, nbd

Forth, the breath taking sunset -
The week we were there about 2 years ago, we looked up the exact time the sun was supposed to set. So when the time came close we marched our selves down to the pier & let me tell ya we weren't disappointed.

if ya don't think this is breathtaking ya may wanna go get your eyes checked..

Fifth, last but not least Michigan has a type of "charm" to it -
To really know what I'm talking about you'd have to jump on a plane right now.. which I fully support ;) but no I'm not kidding. It makes you realize what you've been missin'. The lake, hidden treasures, homey feel, & breath taking sunset all add to the charm of the mitten :))

Okay now pack up your bags & get your butt to Michigan -
See ya later dudesss.