6 things you SHOULD NOT look for in a guy

Number #1 -

Macho Man //

A big ole ego. A guy who talks about himself constantly & seems to always turn the conversation around to where he's the focus is a big NO. There's a difference about a guy who is confident in who he is and a guy who is full of himself. Where God is, the ego cannot be - plain and simple. I mean I get it, you want your man to know that he is important. You don't want him to be pitiful & always depressed. But you also don't want a man who is alllll about him. "I'm the best there is". "I'm perfect". "I'm better than them". Those are some things nobody likes hearing.














Number #2 -

Always the "victim" //
Alright moving on to the second. We just covered the ego and how ya don't want a guy with a head bigger then his body (you get what I mean). BUT you also don't want someone who is always down in the dumps. I'm not saying don't date someone who has insecurities, because that's impossible. We ALL have insecurities and things we don't like about ourselves. There's always gonna be some of that in any relationship. Although hearing about how he "doesn't like his nose" or how he's not "muscular enough" 24/7 can be a real turn off. There's a fine line between complaining every once in a while and doing it all day errday.

Number #3 -

Secrets don't make friends... or relationships //
Does he keep things from you? If a guy is secretive and seems to be acting sketchy say bye bye. I guess this goes along with honesty. This doesn't mean you have to be clinging onto him like a monkey every second, wondering what he's doing. But if he starts to seem like he's keeping secrets, its a big red flag.

Number #4 -

 Never gives you a break //
What I mean by this is he is always finding ways to put you down. There's a thing called "teasing" and a thing called "being mean" & they are two completely different things. Teasing is a form of flirting, ya know the thing couples do that everybody seems to awwww over? yeah, that. Its cute. Playful. Loving. All the things you want in a relationship. Now lets move over to verbal abuse. Something hopefully everyone would say they DO NOT want in a relationship. Choosing someone who is spitting mean words toward you right & left is NOT someone you want to being spending your time on. You deserve way more.

Number #5-

His property? //
This one is a toughy. One, because jealousy is okay to some extent & two, because you shouldn't be focusing on anyone in the relationship but that person. Although when it gets out of hand, its not pretty. Jealousy in a way is something that shows a person you care about them but being "possessive" is saying they are your property. No one is your property, and you are no one else's property. So when the person your with "claims you" and acts as if you belong to them, that should be a good sign he is not the one.

Number #6 -

The hulk //

No one is perfect. Most people on this planet have a temper, and get upset. Even over little simple things that most likely have a easy fix. Taking out the frustration on you all the time? not okay. You should never be someone's punching bag. You should never LET yourself be someone's punching bag. You can do so much better than that. Walk away form the person who yells at you at the drop of a hat.

Like I said NOBODY is perfect. No one has a perfect relationship, but there are things to look out for & that's what I just shared with you lovely people :))

See ya later dudesss.

road tripin' to mississippi

I'm a city girl. I like big buildings and the hustle & bustle. I like taking cabs everywhere and feeling so small in a big place. But let me tell ya... Mississippi about topped that.

Last weekend one of my sweet best friends called me up and said "hey so this is a tad bit last minute but I'm heading to Mississippi tomorrow, wanna come?". Being the worry wart I am I was a lil bit nervous about the packing situation & if it would even be possible but at the same time excitement overwhelmed me, because I was going some place I had never been. As soon as my parents gave the official ok my brain was already filled with the possible adventures.

I saddled up (tried my best with the southern term right there, hehe) and was on my way with 3 amazing people to a adorable town filled with the kindest people - Port Gibson, Mississippi.

Port Gibson - a place where the sunsets glow brighter than your future, the skies are filled with the bluest blue possible & where the grass looks fake (bc ITS SO GREEN). Here's a sample:

btw these two gorgeous pics were taken by Grace ;))

To make this a more enjoyable read and so its not just me rambling about my love for this place I'll give ya a little taste of what I experienced -

• First off, the people. I was informed that here in MS people would stop their cars in the middle of the road just to talk & have a friendly chat. LIKE WHAT. I had never really heard of such a thing.. people taking time out of their day.. to ask a stranger... how their day was going? I think we need more of that everywhere please.
• Next thing worthy of sharing would have to be the scenery. I don't exaggerate when I say the sunsets were G O R G E O U S. Sadly I was having to much fun that the first few days I lost track of time & didn't quite get the chance to snap a picture of it, but if you ever get the chance go check out Grace's Instagram feed. It will blow your mind through your phone screen. Just imagine that in real life. I know... craziness. On top of that the grass looked like the candy grass off of willy wonka. Ya know the bright healthy grass that you seriously wish for a second you were a cow so you could enjoy it? (not gonna lie that's a little weird) well yeah, its real.
• Oh & I cant forget the part where it has countless places to explore. When I say explore, I don't mean going to new boutiques or finding cool coffee shops, which is still on my "love" list but what I mean is places where you sometimes have to work for the reward. For example we took a little trip to the place where a war went on. Ill admit I wasn't paying too much attention to the educational side because I was to distracted thinking of how pretty it was!! Grace's dad convinced us girls that we could climb this hill, and how getting a view point from where the soldiers stood would be such a cool picture (hahaha he understands us). So we started up a hill that soon became a pretty big mistake. 4 words - fire ants, thorns, & snakes :)) ( it was a memory though, and I wouldn't change how it happened for anything)

"Ruthie's face" ;)

we stopped at "the dock" and got some gooooooood food dude 

I tried my best to get a decent sunset picture but... ya know.

on the way home *tear* Ruthie & I found a MS wall worth pulling the car over and taking a picture in front of

So that gives you a little insight of what my spring break was like. I have an idea, comment where you guys went & what you liked most because I betcha there was something.

  See ya later dudesss.